Media Says New and Old 24 Filial Piety Shows China's Parent-Child Relationship Changes from Ethics to Harmony

Title: The old and new “24 filial piety”: The line between the lines reveals that the Chinese parent-child relationship goes from ethical principles to harmonious communication

"Selling the burial father", "Timing the Tiger to save the father," "Abandoning the official to find the mother," and "Taste the dung and worried" ... The 24 dutiful sons' stories recorded by Guo Guojing in the Yuan Dynasty have finally ushered in the "heritors" in the country hundreds of years. The relevant agencies recently released a new version of the "24 filial piety" standard of action, which indicates that the parent-child relationship under the traditional Chinese "filial piety culture" is shifting from paying attention to ethical principles and the "filial piety" of loyalty to paying attention to parents' inner needs and emphasizing harmony and communication. filial".

This new standard of “24 filial piety” issued by the All-China Women's Federation's Office for Coordinating Aging, the National Aging Office, and the National Hearts Series Activity Committee includes the following: always returning with a lover, children, and a call to parents every week. , Carefully listen to your parents’ past events, teach parents online, support single parents to remarry, buy appropriate insurance for parents, bring parents to attend important events, work out with parents, and watch an old movie with parents... The modern atmosphere reveals the emphasis on "spiritual support."

"Hundred Goodness and Filial Piety is the First" is the ancient teaching widely circulated in China. "Filial piety" is the traditional virtue and important ethical thought of the Chinese nation. Between the old and the new “24 filial piety”, the invariable is the connotation of “filial piety” throughout the ages, what changes is the way to practice filial piety, and the catalyst is the change of the times.

In the old “24 filial piety”, there was such a story that Guo Ju’s family in the Eastern Han Dynasty was poor and had to worry about affecting his mother after he had a son. He decided to bury his mother’s mother. The writer Lu Xun once wrote, “Besides being happy, it is disappointing. Because I asked people to finish 24 stories before they knew that “filial piety” was so difficult. It was totally desperate for the previous wishful thinking and wishful thinking. It's up."

"The old '24 filial piety' is too outdated, and the argument that 'the father is a sub-class' has not met the requirements of the development of the times." Zhou Yicheng, a citizen of Hefei, said that the new standard of action is really talking about being a parent's heart. It feels very real. It is also in line with the real needs of society.

Zhou Yicheng’s daughter went to college in a foreign country. The connection between the husband and wife and their daughters is a network. “You can see your child in the video anytime, anywhere, and you can talk as if you are under your own eyes.” Zhou said that her daughter was in college. Before spending special time to carefully teach parents to learn online chat, I did not expect that this has become the old couple to solve lonely and miss a good way.

According to Zhang Tenghua, a student at Renmin University of China, the obvious change in the new “24 filial piety” compared to the “old version” is the emphasis on parent-child communication. "This kind of communication is very close, easy and gentle. Some standards encourage children to become parents' 'friends', listen to their parents' past events, and often talk to their parents. This helps children really understand the real needs of their parents."

The release of the new version of “24 filial piety” immediately triggered widespread discussion among the Chinese people. Some people believe that the practice of "filial piety" that should have been accustomed to, now requires "legislation" norms, "is it happy or sad?" Some people use this contrast to reflect that "there are few people who can meet these standards with realistic dilemma"...

From the pressures of real life and work, there is little time for children to be able to accompany their parents. According to the Research Report on the China's Workplace Balance in the People's Republic of China at the Peking University Social Research and Research Center, the overwork performance in the Chinese workplace is severe. The average working time for the workplace is 8.38 hours, and 30.3% work more than 10 hours per day. The length is 16 hour. 65.8% of people still need to continue working for the company after they return home.

A random survey conducted by reporters on the Internet shows that many netizens have both strongly supported and regretted the “new version of 24 filial piety”. A more general view is: "If you want to go home and look often, but the unit is working too much and your parents do not live in the same city, there are filial conditions but also conditions to implement it!"

However, no one denies the value of the new "24 filial piety." The modern China in transition is facing the impact of Western individual-based values ​​and ethical culture. The new standard is a wake-up call to society that has gradually neglected “filial piety” and lacked moral education in the process of modernization. Regaining "filial piety culture" and reshaping filial piety.

Wu Wei, a counselor at the Jiangsu Institute of Education, decided to organize the students to learn the new "24 filial piety" standard as soon as the new semester begins. “The new standard can keep close interaction with parents, so that they will not feel that they are away from them as they grow up, but also allow them to come in contact with something new without feeling lonely.”

"New 24 filial piety" is both cordial and operative, and it pays attention to the spirit level communication, which provides a clear path for the healthy development of parent-child relationship now." said Wang Kaiyu, a well-known social scientist in Anhui Province.

People also hope that the new version of “24 filial piety” can become the “compass” of modern society’s filial piety and relieve the “old age social anxiety disorder” that is coming.

In the process of accelerating urbanization, more and more people have chosen to pursue dreams in distant cities, work hard for their livelihoods, have forgotten their hometowns and neglected their aging parents. The data released by the Ministry of Civil Affairs recently revealed that over 50% of empty-nest households in urban and rural areas in China have been plagued by problems such as unbalanced family relationships and security insecurity. A survey conducted by the Social Policy Research Center of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences in rural areas of Shanxi, Shaanxi, and Gansu found that more than half of the elderly people over the age of 70 must take care of themselves or be taken care of by their spouses.

Another statistic shows that at present, China's elderly population has exceeded 167 million, accounting for 12.5% ​​of the total population, and it is expected to reach 243 million by 2020. China will become the world's oldest country.

“Anxiety in old age” is a common problem in society after entering an aging society. Surveys from ageing societies such as Japan, Denmark, and Norway point out that if the anxiety of social groups in aging society is not channelled, the spiritual needs of older people are not satisfied for a long time, and there is a huge obstacle to the communication between the elderly and children. Older people will get farther and farther from the society, triggering depression in the elderly and mental illness in the elderly. According to experts, 90% of elderly suicide victims or suicide attempters have never sought any help from their psychological problems.

These figures are shocking. To fulfill filial piety and support for the elderly is not only a personal problem, but has become a major social issue and is closely related to the construction of the state's system.

"The satisfaction of the needs of the aging society at the spiritual level requires a lot of work. It cannot be accomplished overnight." Professor Zhou Zongkui, dean and professor of the School of Psychology at Huazhong Normal University, said.

Wang Kaiyu called for the relevant state departments to further improve the pension system, further promote the reform of the urban and rural household registration system, improve public services, and implement the humanized vacation system mandatory to create good conditions for children to perform filial piety.

In fact, "new" or "old" is worth mentioning, and "24" cannot cover all "filial piety." The new version of "24 filial piety," the standard nominal value, is to urge people to turn "occasionally caring" into "daily caring", not only in the material, but also to do filial piety as early as possible, do not let the "old" has become a parent's portrayal of his later years.

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